Wellness in every area of our life requires a life in BALANCE.
If you are extreme in your behavior and patterns in your life in any way – overly messy, overly clean, overly attached, overly busy, overly self-critical or critical of others, overly body-conscious, health conscious, money conscious, overly controlling or even overly introverted or extraverted, this can create stress which leads to an IMBALANCE in your body and your life on the whole.
Your body has a remarkable capacity to communicate with you and it does so through unwanted symptoms, habits and emotional states.
If we don’t listen to its whimpers, its going to start to cry.
And if we don’t listen to its cry, its going to start to scream.
And if we fail to hear its screams we are likely to be looking at a full scale physical crisis of some sort :(
Tracking back to when the body started to whimper can be very enlightening indeed as to what may have precipitated the imbalance in your body and life in the first place.
If you notice you have some extreme or excessive patterns in your life I would suggest asking yourself ‘How can I become less extreme in my behaviours and habits?’ and take some small steps to break excessive patterns.
For example if you are overly controlling, try sitting back and watching; staying connected with your breath as you observe situations rather than rush in and interfere.
If you are overly messy, try de-cluttering one small area at a time and celebrate each time you do so.
If you are overly money conscious, try leaving a tip (even if it’s the smallest tip) or buy yourself something small, but of value to you, that lets you know you can spend money on yourself and you are worth it.
If you are overly busy, it’s a no-brainer! Slow down, take in your surroundings and connect with the moment.
Human beings are literally walking unconscious patterns. As famous psychologist Karl Jung said ‘until you make the unconscious conscious, it will control your life and you will call it fate’. If we can start to notice our unhelpful patterns – that is bring them into the light of day – and start to de-escalate their charge and hold over us, something quite magical can start to happen. And that, my friends, is a greater sense of balance in our bodies and our lives.
So as you go about your day today I encourage you to notice your patterns of excess, without judgment, and then take a small step to reverse any patterns of excess.
Take the charge out of your extremes, develop new and more sustainable, health-promoting patterns in your life and watch the potential beauty of your life unfold.
You might just be pleasantly surprised at what you discover!
PS. If you start to make small shifts and changes in this way and you experience high degrees of stress and anxiety please contact myself or another professional. Patterns of excess often indicate there is something deeper going on and this CAN be healed. You will be doing your body and your life a massive favour by getting appropriate support for yourself and learning skills for life :)
Ph 021 027 18127
Kira Follas is a qualified counsellor and works as Wellness Practitioner and Group Facilitator in New Zealand. She is also a survivor and thriver of multiple physical and mental-emotional adversities and is a Mum to two awesome teenage lads :)